Empaths are the very sensitive people who are so attuned to the feelings of other people that they can literally feel whatever pain or emotion that those people feel as if it were their own. Nowadays, these special group of people are being recognized and studies more and more to figure out just how they work, and all empaths must owe their thanks to Dr. Elaine Aron who in the late 1980s carried out a study on the topic of empathy and how it affects empaths. From the results of her study, she discovered that a small amount ranging from 15- 20% of human beings had a very sensitive personality and she described her findings as an increased response to externally originating stimuli that comes from different people. As good as empathic people are at tuning in to the emotions of other people, so also are they good at knowing who people are. They just have the knack of being able to know a person’s inherent nature not long after they meet them.
This means that if they can notice bad they can also notice good and because of this, empaths can quickly pick out a fake person even in a crowd. Maybe this is because they have a nicer disposition and cannot abide a person who has a bright negative personality and so, something just puts them off from the person and keeps them on their guard.
Empathic people have their way of handling these fake people, and it is usually by keeping min when they talk or just trying not to say much to them. The sensitivity of an empathic person can only take so much before it begins to be very affected by whatever it senses from these fake people and so it would make the empath prefer to leave the person’s presence or wait for the person to leave.
The list of the type of people that an empathic person cannot around includes the following.
#1: Spineless people who would do anything to be among the cool crowd.
Yes, it is no secret that an empath is most probably going to be a pushover for every sob story she hears, but then they exercise strength in their decisions and try not to get walked over. Most importantly, they don’t try to be among the elite and just prefer to stay on their own.
#2: THE ONES WHO PUT ON A HAPPY FACE WHEN THEY ARE VERY MAD
Empaths cannot abide deception at any level and for whatever reason. They themselves are transparent to a fault and would not want to have any dealings with someone who can deceive other people so calmly.
#3: PEOPLE WHO COVER UP THEIR INSECURITIES WITH A TOUGH ATTITUDE.
These brand of people also are not on the list of the type of people that empaths would like to hang out with.
#4: THOSE WHO WANT TO FIT IN SO BAD BUT CAN’T.
Nothing is more off-putting to an empath than a person who tries so hard to fit into someone else’s box by trying to lead a fake life, and it gets even worse when said person cannot even make the cut at the end of the day.
#5: THE ONES THAT FLATTERs OTHER PEOPLE SO THAT THEY WOULD BE LIKED.
An empath is a firm believer in a person being themselves. They believe that if you remain true to yourself that other people would like you for who you are. Lying to other people to make them like you is not the type of trait that empaths associates themselves with.
#6: THE DRAMATIC ATTENTION SEEKERS
One of the characteristics of an empathic person is that they avoid the limelight as much as possible and as such, they hate people who act melodramatic as a means of drawing attention to themselves.
But how do empaths deal with these people? Read below to find out.
#1: THEY AVOID THEM
Empaths do their very best to avoid people that are fake.
#2: THEY DON’T RESPOND TO THEM
Empathic people try as hard as possible to limit their interactions with fake people simply because they don’t have the time nor the strength to waste people who cannot be themselves.
#3: DEEP DOWN EMPATHS FEAR FAKE PEOPLE
It might sound a bit funny at first but consider it from an empaths point of view. They are very sensitive and can absorb the energy being given out by other people. This means that whenever they are in the presence of a fake person, they most probably would feel a lot of negative or conflicting emotions.
#4: SOMETIMES THEY GET SICK
It is so bad that a very sensitive empath might even puke if they stayed around a fake person.
#5: THEY FEEL GUILTY
As much as empaths want to avoid these fake people, they still feel a need to help them, and at the end of the day, they feel guilty and confused.
#6: THEY DON’T WANT TO STAY AROUND FAKE PEOPLE.
Empathic people try very hard to avoid fake people and the conflicting emotions that they can generate.
Empathic people have a different view of the world, and because of their highly sensitive natures, they can easily get affected by the aura emanating from the people around them. They constantly have to be on guard so as not to drain themselves too much from the negative energy impacting on them and this is why they avoid certain people as much as possible. It’s not because they don’t want to help such people, no, they even with those people the very best and would have loved to help them. However, they have to avoid exposing themselves to such energy that would quickly drain their own emotions and leave them ill at times. They are human beings and do have to take care of themselves occasionally.
#1: LEARN TO SAY NO SOMETIMES.
Empaths have a very hard time with saying no to someone’s request for help. That is because their sensitive natures would feel flayed and just can’t bear the fact that someone is in need or in pain and they might have a solution. They just aren’t wired to say no to people, but it is something that they would have to learn to do if they want to help even more people in this world without crashing from exhaustion. Most times, they neglect to take care of their own needs while they take care of the needs of others. Empaths should learn the art of saying no and setting up limits that would help them avoid being drained easily and so thoroughly.
#2. SELFISHNESS IS GOOD ONCE IN A WHILE
Empaths are the most unselfish people to ever grace the earth. They constantly live their lives for other people’s comfort and happiness. They are ready to give up their last means of sustenance to someone else. They are that caring and loving. But sometimes, it does have its drawbacks, and one of those is that the empaths do not live for themselves at all and most time end up ignoring their own needs in favor of the needs of others. They should learn to live for themselves once in a while. They should not see it as being selfish rather they should see it as recharging themselves because constant selflessness would lead to a breakdown.
#3: IGNORE ALL FORMS OF FLATTERY
Empaths have to learn not to be moved by flattery and sweet words. They should learn not to always listen to sob stories because some people are very good at manipulating hardier people with well-crafted sob stories much less a soft hearted person like an empath.
Yea, they can survive a lot more stress than other people and would most probably keep being selfless and giving until they have given of everything that they have to give and crash. Empaths need to learn to take care of themselves so that someone else can benefit from their empathy too. Burning out is not going to do them any favors.
Empaths are very wonderful people who should be cherished by everyone. They also deserve to have really good friends who would help them establish limits to avoid them giving too much and burning out.
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