Toxic relationships. Toxic people. Toxic relationships. Toxic people. Lately, this seems to be all we hear around us. Well; they do exist, these two things but the fact remains that some people are going about using these labels wrong. For instance, if you and your partner have an argument a couple of times, you label him a toxic person. So, before I give the character traits of a toxic person, I am going to clearly define what a toxic relationship is and who a toxic person is.
A toxic person is someone who has a mostly negative impact on your life. Most times, it is because they hurt or have not gotten over something in their lives and so they project that onto other people around them. A toxic relationship is any relationship with a toxic person.
So, before you quickly resort to labeling someone with this toxic label, you have to be sure that you are one hundred percent right about their character because lately, it seems as if everyone is labeling everyone a toxic person. So, I came up with 11 clear signs that show that someone is a toxic person and it would help you to label correctly.
Here are 11 signs to clear you up.
#1: THEY ARE NOT GOOD LISTENERS
So, toxic people love to be the center of every discussion. It’s not like the way some people love it either. They are obsessed with being the center of attention and love nothing more than talking about themselves or just plain talking. So, sign one, a toxic doesn’t listen, they talk, and they want you to always listen. You might even be surprised to learn that they could go on and on and on if you do not interrupt them. It can get a whole lot uncomfortable, and this character stems from a few narcissistic tendencies and selfishness.
#2: THEY ARE ALWAYS THE VICTIMS OF EVERYTHING
This is one thing that if you think back right now, you would realize that you have always noticed. Someone is always doing something wrong to them, slighting them, not hanging out with them anymore and just generally doing something wrong to them. The issue is that they never accept responsibility for their own part in whatever went down between them and that person but love to blame it all on someone else. There is always someone else to blame for what happened.
#3: THEY ARE EXTREMELY JUDGEMENTAL
This is the absolute truth because I have a relationship with a toxic person and the truth is that she is very good at judging other people and quickly saying something negative about them even if she does not know them or has never met them before.
#4: THEY LOVE ATTENTION
Toxic people are regular attention seekers. It does not matter to them what they do to gain that attention even if it is pissing other people off. What matters to them at the end of the day is that they gain the attention of others. They usually do this by trying to dominate a discussion or change the topic to something that they want to talk about. They crave attention and most times, usually get it.
#5: THEY HAVE VIRTUALLY NO RESPECT FOR ANYBODY
You would have experienced this if you are in any form of relationship with a toxic person. They don’t respect boundaries of anybody and most times would invade your privacy or deliberately break someone else’s rules.
#6: THEY ARE EXPERTS AT CUTTING INTO CONVERSATIONS
All of this stems from their need to be noticed. They are very good at cutting into conversations mostly just so that everyone can notice them and know that they are there. They love to act all important and might even take over someone else’s achievement for their own just so that they would be complimented. They love to interrupt anything from other drivers on the road to their family and friends.
#7: THEY ARE PRETTY GOOD AT INTERRUPTING.
Because they love to talk about themselves a lot, it won’t be hard for you to notice this. They totally adore their egos. Who they are, their position in the society and what certain people think of them is very important to them. All of these things are just geared towards making them seem like they are the best possible version of themselves they can get when we all know that they aren’t.
#8: THEY ARE ABUSIVE
Physical abuse can be a very traumatic and terrible thing for someone to experience. But we aren’t really talking about physical abuse. We are talking about two forms of just as horrible abuse which is emotional and mental abuse. It can destroy a person’s psyche and is wielded quite wonderfully by these toxic people.
#9: THEY ARE NEVER WRONG.
This is the thing about them. They just cannot ever be wrong. It is very hard for them to accept that they did something wrong unless it was caught on camera. It can be so frustrating that you can’t take it anymore and you are forced to just limit contact with them.
#10: NOTHING THAT GOES WRONG IS EVER THEIR FAULT.
Yes, never. It had to be someone else’s fault that the toilet tissue was littered when just last 5 minutes was ripping them to shreds. It has to have been Anna’s fault for giving them some bad news. They’re almost like kids in the way they avoid taking any sort of responsibility.
#11: BIRDS OF SAME FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER.
They love to be a part of a posse although most often than not, they are the leader of the posse. The thing about these people is that deep down they are good people who don’t thrive on hurting other people or bringing them down so that they can feel better so while they might enjoy the position of power that joining these cliques affords them, they don’t really condone the activities of the mean girl squad.
I really hope that with this article, you can clearly differentiate between someone who is toxic and just a case of bad compatibility.