Who is an alpha male or female? An alpha male or female is that person that everybody gravitates to. He or she is an exceptional leader who is ready to protect his own. They possess charisma and charm in spades, and this draws so many people to them. There is an air of determination about them that brooks no argument and raises the stack of their achievements higher and higher. In the words of Amy Poehler
“I love bossy women. Some people hate the word, and I understand how ‘bossy’ can seem like a shitty way to describe a woman with a determined point of view, but for me, a bossy woman is someone to search out and celebrate. A bossy woman is someone who cares and commits and is a natural leader,”
In the society today, the people who make the highest of progress are those who have the alpha personality. They possess a strong sense of dedication and passion. They give whatever they are doing no matter how mundane, all of their attention and that is an attractive trait.
As wonderful as it seems to date such a powerhouse, it is not easy at all because as self-sufficient and independent as they look, they demand so much from their partners. Alpha’s are very special people who deserve a special relationship. Do you want to date an alpha personality or are you already in a relationship with an alpha personality and you want some tips to help you make your relationship work? In this article, I’m going to discuss seven things that you must have in your relationship if you are dating an alpha personality.
1. Self sufficiency
The first thing is self-sufficiency. An alpha male would not find a clinging personality appealing. The alpha personality values independence very much. You are dating an alpha; then you need to make out time apart from each other to pursue things that appeal to you and to develop yourself so that you don’t get swallowed up by his own big personality. Find things to keep you busy and let him have some space to pursue his own passions.
Alpha personalities are used to being the strong ones for others all the time. They too have their own problems but find it incredibly hard to open up to someone else about their own struggles. They are fiercely proud and would most times stand aloof. Everybody needs someone. When they finally trust someone enough to show their vulnerability to them, they would need the assurance that their secrets would be kept safe and that whatever they say to that person would remain between them.
You have to be brave and ready to stand up to him. An alpha does not need a weakling who is too afraid to talk if they feel suffocated. The alpha’s big personality is an awesome thing. However, it can become stifling if you begin to feel as if his personality is taking over your life. You must have the courage to talk to the alpha about your misgivings and to point out his mistakes. This honesty from a partner is what anyone with the alpha personality would appreciate the most.
4. You have to be fun loving
One very important point. You see people with alpha personalities usually get wrapped up in the next achievement, the next business plan or the next project. Because of their overachiever tendencies, they hardly ever just let go and have fun. It is left to you as their partners to bring the fun and laughter to the home. Once in a while get him or her to do something fun and impulsive. They would appreciate such a person very much for lightening up their lives.
5. They need an equal match.
An alpha would not be in or want a relationship with a partner who is more authoritative than they are. There can’t be two alphas in a pack. They will not be able to live with the person because their personalities would constantly clash. One person must be dominant. On the other hand, an alpha also does not want to be with a wallflower. A shy and subversive woman would quickly bore out the alpha. He needs a partner who is his equal. He wants a partner that can stand up to him and would not shrink when they have to point out where he went wrong.
6. Unquestioned Respect
Alpha is a leader, and nobody disrespects the alpha. They take it a bit harder than others. They look good, strong and perfect. However, they have shockingly vulnerable egos, and that ego might be hurt when you disrespect him. Even when you want to complain or chastise them, you need to be respectful to them. Know their limits, listen to their choices, and in everything you do with them, honesty is the key.
7. They love a good dare
The general opinion is that opposites attract and as such a very dominant person like an alpha, would be better off with a quiet, unchallenging female. It cannot be more wrong than this. An alpha personality would need a partner as strong as he is to support him and to be his equal. He would greatly appreciate your strong personality. Alpha personalities have nothing to do with meek and quiet women. It is off-putting to them.
When it comes to partners, the alpha personality does not want a gushing fangirl who will worship him and not have the strength to stand up to him. As the kings that they are, all that they need to rule are their Queens.
With these tips, you can have a wonderful relationship with your alpha partner if you are already dating one. But if you aren’t dating one right now but would like to in the future, then hopefully this article has given you useful tips that will ensure you have a wonderful relationship.