Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know.”-Ernest Hemingway
Looking from the outside, we often think that smart people are in a constant state of discovery and inventions. They get the best of grades and get the choicest of jobs. They make a lot of money, and they have envious families and big homes. But you would be shocked to know that doesn’t guarantee them happiness.
Below are the 6 reasons why it seems that smart people can’t find happiness.
1. They are the victim of over analysis
You must have heard of analysis paralysis right. Well, that is a mental block for smart people. They would rather over analyze the possible ways to see a problem than solving the problem. Their over-analytical minds are used in all aspects of their lives. Thinking in itself, can be a very tough task that often lead to futile results. This isn’t like Hollywood’s flawed depiction of smart people or geniuses. It always has to do with someone writing some gibberish equations on a glass panel or window. Or coming up with brilliant ideas just off of a minute’s mental stimulation. That is far from the truth and in fact quite the opposite. Most theories were as a result of a constant and consistent focus on a problem – and sometimes that effort and time could span generations. So thinking isn’t a sexy thing but rather hard work.
On top of that they think and have a great analytical mind that helps them see right through the icing of people’s actions. What is behind that isn’t very nice. They understand that most people are just out for their own selfish ambitions and that no one really cares. That kind of understanding can cast a dark blanket over your view on life. And in turn, cause one to go into depression. No one who continually bombards his/her mind with the grime behaviors of man, in general, would have enough space for positivity and optimism. To achieve happiness is to be ignorant of the fact that you are living in a cold and cruel world where you control less than what controls you and sometimes determines your fate.
2. They want to match everything with their high standards
Smart people are very self-aware of what it is that they want. They aren’t very good at coping with results that don’t go their way. That – insatiable desire for excellence, is one quality that is the driving force of innovations. But sometimes that could be the bane of their existence. Not being able to cope with the realities of life no matter how much they deviate from the models of your philosophies, can turn life into a long and painful chaos of mind-shattering events. Since a lot of smart people hold these arbitrary standards to themselves, their careers and even their partners, they usually end up unhappy most of the time.
They have to conclude that life in its chaotic nature is the true and tested philosophy. That a lot of things won’t make sense and that its okay that way. That it is okay to be driven by theoretical aspirations but accept the limitations that practicality puts to those ambitions. The world is what it is, and if you want to be happy, you have to tailor your life to it while making as much difference as possible.
3. Intelligent people judge themselves too hard
That it is a real struggle for smart people. She to their highly analytical minds, they could find themselves continually picking and finding faults in their actions or decision-making processes. When they lose at something, they beat themselves up for not measuring up and even when they win they quickly lose interest in the victory and would instead begin to analyze their actions leading up to the victory in the bid of becoming more efficient. So whether they are winning or losing, they are constantly critiquing themselves. Over time such pressures begin to mount, and in time they could fall into depression as they don’t ever measure up to their standards although everyone outside sees them as a success.
Another aspect of highly intelligent people that makes them so harshly critical of themselves is their unnatural obsession with little details. One of the football greats – Ray Lewis, once said that greatness is just an accumulation of small things done perfectly. That is the mindset of highly cerebral people. That could be an edge in the competitive world, but it also has its dark side too. A casual reminder of a little misstep in some activity that took place a long time ago is usually enough to trigger a bad day for a smart person. This is due to their over average competitiveness, passion for perfection and ambition. Such a bad day could lead to a discontented mind and a disgruntled spirit.
4. They aim for bigger things
Smart people can’t get satisfied, not in the greedy sense of the word but this kind of dissatisfaction can come from the mind being in constant work to better understand the whatever craft it is that such a person is dedicated to. Thus this makes them go from one achievement to another. Once they have conquered a specific area, they move to the next most significant challenge. For them, they are constantly measuring their own skills up to higher standards.
They are constantly in the chase for whatever it is that can satisfy their brains hunger for mental tasks and challenges. So they would always go off with their imaginations as they try to think of better ways to solve problems. As much as this is a good way to bring about more technology and innovation in the society, it could be a disadvantage for them as they never will find happiness that lasts longer than the time it takes to overcome certain problems and challenges.
They are known to have thoughts that support the idea that they are of a different era of that they aren’t suppose to be on the planet. Deep thinking of intellectual people are bombarded with similar thoughts every time. And when you have already looked upon your existence with contempt, it is them very hard to have joy on the planet you already despise.
5. No one to appreciate them or have a meaningful conversation
People hardly get or understand intelligent people. But they are humans too, and every human being has a desire to be understood, appreciated, and loved. That is what helps us cope with the constant barrage of stressful situations in life. With a simple consoling conversation with one who understands whatever it is that you are going through can reduce the stress and issues that you are facing. But that can only happen if the person who is trying to console you understands the pain and suffering that you ate constantly going through. From your relationship to politics to career and so forth. For intelligent and deep minded people, they only get understood by very few people, and these people are usually just as intelligent as they are. Very few people can appreciate their sharp analytical mind and the depths their minds go in search of a deeper understanding of problems that they face. Finding such people could be a very tough job, and therefore a lot of intelligent people and their problems are usually left to themselves.
Although that this can make them feel lonely, it doesn’t mean that intelligent need a lot of people to socialize with just to feel happy about themselves. Instead, they do enjoy times of solitude spent on mental analysis of situations and problems. But that doesn’t mean that smart people or deep thinkers don’t have a need to socialize at all. They are human beings and therefore feel the need to interact with other human beings. Bit the twist to them is that they are more concerned with more meaningful things and not things that have little to no intrinsic value to discussing them. Unfortunately, such topics are the themes of moat discussions, and that could bore them quite easily. This making them look like social misfits.
6. Smart people often develop psychological issues.
A lot of scientific papers have found a link between deep thinkers and mental disorders. Some of these disorders include social anxiety and bipolar disorders. Some have even suggested that these mental disorders are side effects of a brilliant mind. She to the complexity of the human mind we can’t conclude that mental disorders are actually the disadvantages of being smart.
And not all smart people have mental illness problems. But even at that, those who don’t have any problems are still at a high risk of falling into deep depression. The type that is connected to the confusion and frustration of having to understand why we are on earth. These type of depression is usually brought about by over thinking and over analyzing life. First, they are in deep thought about human behavior, and then they begin to think of life and death, and before you know it, they are questioning the reason behind their existence. When you don’t get the answers to these questions, then you get begin to feel bad.