As a teenager, you are attracted to boys that are in your age bracket, but that changes quickly as you grow older. One reason why this happens is that you don’t find young guys of your age mature or interesting. But an older guy seems to fit the description of what you want from a man and there are 20 reasons why this is so.
Fortunately, we will be taking an in-depth examination of these factors and if it hasn’t crossed your mind to go for the older guy, then let me show you why the grass is indeed greener on the other side of 30.
1. AN OLDER MAN HAS HIS ACT TOGETHER.
At this point in life, men tend to have their act together. Most men in their twenties are still trying to find their footing. They are still going through an identity crisis and figuring out how to be an adult.
Of course, women become mature around the age of 25 as nature has made it so to enable them to settle down and procreate. For men, it takes a little more time to be comfortable with themselves and have a goal-oriented adult life.
2. HE HAS A CAREER INSTEAD OF A JOB.
You can tell that this comes as a result of the maturity we discussed above. When one has a certain level of self-awareness, they begin to seek things that don’t necessarily have short-term fun but most certainly give long-term value. They settle into a career and begin to work their way to the top of their respective industries.
That is a sign of ambition and strong character and that my friends can be very attractive to young ladies. As they love to have a leader as a partner and not a baby.
4. HE KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS.
Another advantage of being with an older guy who is mature and self-aware is they are a lot more stable in many different ways.
Due to the knowledge they have of themselves, they tend to know what they want in life and therefore consciously make decisions that move them in the direction they are most comfortable with.
They are not easily moved by peer pressure of the fickle nature of life events. They tend to make decisions and stick with them. They see things through and not quit mid-way.
That is an essential skill to acquire as it makes older men less likely to cheat when they’re in relationships.
5. HE KNOWS WHO HE IS.
Women are attracted to a lot of great qualities men can exhibit but what stands out is confidence. Confidence comes from knowing and accepting who you are. It also comes with from encountering and surmounting challenges and as we all know, the more we live, the more challenges we have.
Older men tend to come off as being more comfortable in their skin. They have had far more life experiences than their younger counterparts that they can put down on their resume and have also surmounted more challenges.
Going through challenges exposes you to yourself – your flaws and weakness and also your strengths too. The more you become successful at conquering your problems, the wiser you become.
All this make older men feel like they have value and thus exude confidence.
6. HE’S FINANCIALLY SECURE.
This isn’t about looking for a guy who is a millionaire, it more like having a guy who can handle himself financially. Having your boyfriend asking for money now and then is very unattractive to women.
This isn’t because women are money grabbing people or materialistic individuals, but this has to do with the fact that such behavior is a symptom of a deeper problem.
When you aren’t financially stable or responsible as a man, it shows that you probably aren’t responsible in other aspects of your life. Women will always want to be in a relationship with someone who is a leader.
At least he should have a job and be able to pay his bills. That my friends is the beginning of adulthood.
7. HE’S DONE PLAYING GAMES.
Now, I am not saying that men shouldn’t be able to have fun and leisure. All I am saying that it shouldn’t consume and occupy most of his time.
Most times, older men tend to have gotten over the boyhood joys of playing with a joystick. They are usually into activities that have deeper substance, and so gaming and similar leisure activities left behind.
8. HE DOESN’T HAVE ROOMMATES.
Another sign that someone has their act together is being able to afford a decent place by yourself. I don’t need to remind anyone of the horrors of someone walking in on you and your partner getting jiggy with it.
That will happen less if your guy has an apartment of his own. And most guys who fit such description are usually older.
9. HE HAS MORE LIFE EXPERIENCE.
Just as we talked about older men having self-awareness and loving themselves for who they are, that is a result of having life experiences.
Going through hardships and coming out victorious on the other side. Loving yourself without reason is very reasonable. Love comes as a reaction to the benefits you get from something.
If you love your job, you do so because you are happy while you are at it. You love your parents because they first loved and cared for you.
When you go through some trial or test, and you find a way to overcome that test, you get this rush of dopamine in your brain, and you feel happy and accomplished. And that leads to self-love.
Life’s experiences are filled with trials and tribulations and also attest to the way an individual reacts to what is thrown at him.
Older men have that in quantum and so then to be better human beings all round.
10. HE ACTUALLY KNOWS WHERE YOUR CLITORIS IS.
This also a result of having experiences. Whatever it is that you do more of, you get better at. Men at the older side of 30 are more likely to have had more experience in bed than their younger counterparts.
So don’t get in their slacking cause they will most likely blow your mind. And that is a very good way of keeping your relationship healthy.
11. HE KNOWS WHAT A REAL DATE SHOULD ENTAIL.
Yeah, when it comes to being with an older guy, you notice that you are treated well. They understand you a lot better and faster. You feel valued and respected because they treat you with respect.
Your opinions and feelings aren’t just shoved to the side but considered as he makes decisions about the relationship.
So instead of having a date where you guys eat fast food and binge watch Netflix at his apartment, your dates will be better planned.
Instead of busying yourselves with distractions, you guys would engage in communicating your needs to each other.
You know, a great date doesn’t necessarily mean champagne glasses and expensive wine – not like ladies don’t like that, but it’s about something much deeper.
You see when you go out on a date with a guy who you are in a relationship with, and you walk out of your date feeling like your relationship got better and that you are an active participant in it. Then you know that you are with the right guy.
For that to happen, that guy has to be mature and confident enough to seek out a way to help make the relationship worth your while. Most times it takes a man to get into his 30s and 40s to get there.
12. HE CAN HOLD A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR PARENTS.
By the way, the qualities I mentioned above (except ten because that would be weird that your parents picture that) are what your parents would want in a man.
So if you take an older guy home to your parents, he would most likely win their love and respect. He will be able to hang in there with your dad.
13. HE RESPECTS YOUR FRIENDS.
When it comes to respect and understanding the dignity of human life, it is usually an individual thing. But since young men have higher levels of testosterone in them, they tend to be less sensitive when it comes to issues like this.
But with older guys, they have gone through their testosterone turmoiled youth and they are a lot wiser when it comes to making decisions that have to do with human relations.
This will show in the way they view you and your friends. They are a lot better at being in touch with their humanity.
14. HE’S NOT SCARED OF SHARING HIS EMOTIONS.
The point above bleeds right into this current conversation. A part of being in touch with your humanity is not being afraid to express your feelings with your partner/one you love.
Older men tend to be confident enough to be vulnerable with their partners in relationships as compared to their younger and insecure counterparts who are still struggling to prove themselves to themselves.
15. HE HAS A GREATER APPRECIATION… FOR YOU.
You can’t appreciate the yin of life without its yan. You never really understand the beauty of peace without experiencing war.
So it is with having high-quality individuals as friends. When you go through a shit pile of people who take advantage of you and put you through pain, you will value presence someone who has great character in your life. That will feel like finding an oasis in the desert; you wouldn’t want to let go.
That it is a big reason why older men tend to seal the deal when they get into a relationship with a solid lady. They have seen way to much drama-driven negative individual wreck their lives so that when they see a good one, they know well to keep her.
To them, there isn’t a doubt about what they are doing. They just know.
16. HE’S MORE ACCEPTING OF YOUR IMPERFECTIONS.
Continuing from the last point above, older guys tend to be grounded in the realities of life.
You know how you have childhood fantasies that begin to fade away as you experience the harsh realities of life?
Well, that is the very reason why older men don’t get too picky about their ladies being cinderellas or supermodels.
Meanwhile, the flip side of this mentality is where you find young men. They still have a lot of vanity in the way they see the world.
17. HE’S NOT LIKELY TO GIVE UP TOO EASILY.
Since he has a strong character, he would be less likely to give up on making your relationship with him work. And this is because he really does love you and is committed to being with you.
He has far fewer distractions as he has matured over the years to understand what is important to him. This, of course, is usually the opposite for younger guys who are just starting life and have short attention span. They are drawn to any and every light that twinkles.
18. HE LISTENS.
An older man is more inclined to listen and this is because he understands somethings. I’ll explain below.
When we hear communication, we often think about mastering the art of conveying what we want to the other person. But we often forget that that is usually the lesser part of the whole process.
People naturally tend to care about their problems and to get people interested in what you have to say; you have to hear them out first.
You have to listen to their problems in other to help and not for listening sake. When you listen with a genuine intent to understand and solve their problems, then you will be shocked at how your mind will begin to work out solutions for them.
And that is what strengthens bonds and cement relationships.
19. HE’S NOT AFRAID TO DISCUSS THE FUTURE.
He knows what he wants and as a result, knows where he’s going. So he isn’t scared of relaying that information to you.
In fact, he must have decided to be with you based on who he is and where he is going.
So if you stay long enough with him, you will hear him talk about his goals and aspirations a million times.
You will also see it in every move he makes, always steering his life to align with the directions of his goals.
20. AN OLDER GUY JUST GETS IT.
Being in a relationship with an older guy is far less stressful. He understands you on a profound level, and so you don’t struggle to express yourself in the relationship.
He can relate to what you’re going through so well that you feel you aren’t alone in the storm. He comforts you through the pain and celebrates you in your victories.
Try dating an older guy, and you will find out he is probably everything you ever yearned for in a relationship.