Women who are alpha are known to be mentally tough high achievers. They set very ambitious goals and then go about achieving them. They wouldn’t mind having to undergo stress to get it. They are very interested in things that are hard to achieve. They are always busy being highly productive. You never see them loaf around or whiling away time. They are an extremely focused bunch who know what they a want and continuously working towards getting it. They are naturally good at leadership, and their self-confidence can come off as pride and aloofness. To others, it could be a little intimidating. They wouldn’t back out of speaking their mind. That can be unattractive to guys who are also as competitive as they are or to beta males who can’t handle that kind of pressure in a relationship. Now, knowing that finding the right guy for the alpha lady can be very tough, what comes to mind is how to find the man with the qualities that attract the alpha woman. Here they are…
1. THEY NEED TO BE CONSTANTLY CHALLENGED
An alpha lady is drawn to a man who is confident in his abilities to compete. A good relationship with an alpha lady is one where she is always challenged to be better than her previous self. A man who doesn’t have that much self-esteem would see that as a constant affront on his person and therefore won’t be a good competitor. The alpha lady would want someone who would be magnanimous in victory and would survive a defeat – without having their feelings all tangled up with the process.
2. THEY NEED TO KNOW THAT THEY CAN TRUST THEIR PARTNERS
Alpha ladies would love their relationship secrets remain as such. They despise disloyalty as that is not in their nature, to them it is an ultimate sign of weakness. So they look for partners who are fiercely loyal. Someone who they can comfortably exposé their vulnerable side too. Someone who wouldn’t turn their backs on them in times of need.
3. THEY NEED TO BE RESPECTED
Alpha women would love the partners to be respectful of their person. They would love guys who would also be supportive of whatever it is they are engaged in; this doesn’t imply that the alpha lady can’t stand rebuke, in fact, she is okay with having her being called out when her partner feels she is out of line. The alpha lady loves to keep her space, and that could also include that she not be lied to, she dislikes deceit, and she regards that as disrespectful on many levels. She wants a grounded guy who would check her when she needs it and will praise her when she deserves it. She doesn’t want an abuser nor does she want a sycophant.
4. THEY NEED THEIR INDEPENDENCE AND FREEDOM
Alpha ladies love their freedom and independence.
And that is a non-negotiable aspect of any relationship they get into. They would love to enjoy the love, care, and companionship that a relationship affords them and also have the freedom of being engaged in whatever that she deems fit. She wants to passionately pursue whatever it is that interests her and make friends with the friends that she wants to hang around with, they would also appreciate it if their partner does the same. It keeps the relationship refreshed and anew every time that they meet.
5. THEY NEED SOMEONE WHO CAN KEEP UP WITH THEIR FAST PACED LIFE
Alpha women are always into one productive activity or the other. They would need someone who understands the work nature and not always whine on how they don’t get to see them always. They are always booked and working hard in their businesses and place of work. They would need someone who also is a high achiever and gets the daily grind and madness that comes with being successful or running business empires. With them, it is all high pressure and intensity. And most guys can’t keep up with that pace.
6. THEY NEED AN EQUALLY RESPONSIBLE PARTNER
Alpha ladies would love to have a partner who can handle himself. They don’t want some loser who wants to only leech on their own hard earned success. They would love a guy who has got his own thing going and doesn’t have enough idle time to get mischievous. They would love a guy who is as successful as they are but with his ego and mindset in the right place. Such a guy should also be able to have his finances and be self-sufficient. Now, that guy doesn’t have to be a mere extension of their personalities. That person could have different passions and interests. In fact, to them, that brings more flavor to the relationship.
7. THEY NEED TO LAUGH AND BE HAPPY
Alpha women are known to be attracted to guys who are funny. It helps them ease up and heal from the stress of the day. They would appreciate a guy who could warm their day with a smile. Another reason alpha ladies are drawn to these funny lads is that most comic guys are the least sensitive people. That gives them the freedom to be themselves in a relationship without feeling like they are walking on eggshells when they are with their partner.
8. THEY NEED TO BE CALLED OUT WHEN NECESSARY
It may look contrary to what you will expect an alpha woman to be, but the truth is that they loved to be told when they are doing wrong. Yes, alpha ladies aren’t afraid of being called out for their misgivings. They just see it as another form of challenge to be a better person. They understand that although they do more than most, they don’t do all. They are a human being as such will always be prone to make mistakes. The thing here is that they have to be with partners who are mature enough to know that such times aren’t prepared to crack unnecessary jokes about her missteps. They are to caution them with love and respect.
9. THEY NEED SOMEONE WHO IS INFORMED AND MATURE
To be good in all the qualities listed above, you have to be informed. You have to be versatile in the knowledge, and also have the hunger to get more. This so because the alpha woman loves to have intelligent conversations with whoever they interact with. Talk less of a partner they would see on a daily basis. They have to be able to have a smart partner with whom she can bounce ideas off with. Someone who is well balanced in reasoning and logic.
10. THEY NEED SOMEONE WITH TACT AND WISDOM
Above all else, an alpha woman is a smart woman, who would be with a guy who is just as intelligent as she is. Someone who also has wisdom and knows how to apply tact in their relationship. In themselves, most actions are neither good or bad, space and time label them so. So an alpha lady’s man should know when to and when not to bring up somber topics that need in-depth discussions. They should also need to understand that not all matters need to be addressed. Flimsy talk and complaining aren’t qualities that alpha ladies admire.