Can we all agree that nothing hurts our hearts so totally as much as finding out that someone to whom we have committed our time, our heart and our loyalty is stepping out on us? Whether you are a woman with a cheating guy or you are a guy with a cheating woman, the fact remains that it hurts and it hurts badly. It takes away a lot from you. Your trust in the opposite sex, your trust in yourself to make well-informed decisions, your self-esteem and self-confidence, and a little bit of yourself.
When it comes to cheating, the general idea is that it is the domain of men to cheat on their partners. The stories that are surfacing always seem to have the man in the cast in the role of the villain. The stories that have the woman as the villain are so few, and far in between that, they are drowned by the louder voices of the stories of men who cheat. What this has done is given people the idea that fewer women cheat. So what it seems like to the average man is that a woman is faithful while a man cheats.
Up for a little shock? It’s wrong, just another stereotype that has gotten out of hand. Men cheat, yes but women also cheat. It’s time to hear more from the point of view of the men who have been cheated upon and to see more articles championing their cause and giving them tips on how to avoid a cheat just like the women.
Men don’t want to keep flitting from female to female all the time. They just want to find that one person that is worth the commitment work and sacrifice that it takes to have a wonderful relationship. But it does take two to tango right?
If you think starting up a relationship is hard, try maintaining one. The maintenance of a relationship is way harder to do, and that is a fact. So, having that in mind, I have written out 10 Signs that your woman is stepping out on you.
10. ALL OF A SUDDEN, SHE WANTS TO KNOW YOUR DAY’S SCHEDULE.
If your woman wants to know your daily schedule, where you would be going, how long you would stay there, what you would be doing and what time you would be home, there are 3. One is that she is an over needy woman who wants to control you through the knowledge of your movement. The second thing is a surprise. When you want to throw someone a surprise, you make sure that they aren’t going to be there. And the last reason is cheating because when you want to cheat, you try as much as possible to make sure that your partner does not see you. It has happened to many unsuspecting men who found out rather harshly when they came home early and walked into their partners going at it with some other guy.
9. SHE DOESN’T SEEMS TO BE EMOTIONALLY INVESTED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP ANYMORE.
She’s become withdrawn and distant with you. It genuinely seems as if she is preoccupied with something. She could be acting preoccupied because she is preoccupied with other issues like her cheating. She no longer wants to talk with you like you both used to do before. She probably also shows hesitation when it comes to hanging out with you with some excuses like she’s tired. Whenever communication has left a relationship, that relationship automatically has an expiration date.
8. SHE BECOMES MANIC ABOUT KEEPING HER PHONE AND IT’S CONTENTS PRIVATE
With the widespread use of social media in the world, this has become one of the quickest ways to catch a cheat. This is because most people now cheat on social media platforms much more than they used to. Facebook, what’s app and even text messages might be the means through which she communicates with her lover, and that is why she guards it with her very life. If you notice that your partner has become more active on her phone than before, always seems to be chatting with someone and suddenly develops some kind of possessiveness over her phone, it might be time for you to do a little snooping of your own. She just could be cheating on you.
7. LATELY, SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX ANYMORE WITH YOU.
What is sex if not the physical manifestation of the emotion love? Sex is an activity that goes a long way to reassure both partners of the love they have for each other. If your relationship used to have a very healthy and perhaps even kinky sex life but does not have that anymore, it is a cause for alarm. If your partner is not getting loved up by you, the chances are high that she is getting loved up by someone else. This particular sign is one of the easiest to discover and truest to follow. If sex is a thing of the past in your relationship, it should be because one of you is sick or it is because one of you is cheating.
6. SHE’S BUYING SEXY UNDERWEAR, AND SHE IS NOT WEARING IT FOR YOU.
If this is not a sign, I don’t know what else is a sign. Remember that all of this still had to do with the fact that she is slowly withdrawing from you on the physically intimate plane. If you notice perchance that your woman has been buying up new sexy lingerie pieces and you have not yet had the show you were waiting for, then something is seriously wrong, and you should follow up on it. It could only mean one of two things. One is that she is buying those lingerie pieces for her to feel sexy once in a while but then again, how many pieces does she actually have to buy. It seems highly unlikely. Now, the second reason is that she is wearing it for someone else giving them the show that should be yours.
5. SHE HAS TURNED INTO A NAGGING SHREW OVERNIGHT
You and just tell where the loving, soft-spoken, and sweet woman you were in a relationship with went to. All of a sudden, nothing you do is ever enough for her. She is always complaining about how you never get right. Every single day comes with one quarrel or the other all instigated by her nagging. This sign is a general sign that says I’m tired of this relationship and I might be cheating. All of the nagging isn’t because she is irritated with you, it’s because she wants you to get so angry that you would break it off with her making her seem like the wronged party.
4. SHE BEGINS TO HAVE NEW “FRIENDS”
She introduced him as her new friend from work or something equally unassuming. She always likes to have him over because he’s new to town and doesn’t have many friends. She has to show him around the city because he is new to it. Whatever the reasons or excuses she gives the endpoint is the same, she is spending more and more time with him. If you ever notice that she flirts with him no matter how mild it might seem, just know that he isn’t just a friend. Chances are he is the other man, and you might want to have a discussion with her.
3. SHE KEEPS TRYING TO EVADE YOUR QUESTIONS
Finally after noticing these other signs above, you have become fed up, and finally, you are ready to know the truth. You have also decided to give her the benefit of the doubt as someone whom you love to come out clean herself. You want her to be honest with you, and so you finally asked her if she is cheating on you. Instead of giving a straightforward yes or no answer, she begins to run circles around you trying to evade your questions or giving you those annoying answers, not answers. She might even flare up in anger claiming that you don’t trust her. Either way, if it comes to this, please leave that relationship.
2. SHE SMELLS DIFFERENT
As someone with whom you are in a close relationship with, you should know her intimately, and well, you should know yours too. If your woman has come home more than once smelling like another man, the same man over and over again, the chances of it being a new office tradition to hug your boss is zero. The truth most likely is that your woman has been making a pit stop at her lover’s house before coming home.
1. YOU FEEL AS IF SHE NO LONGER CONSIDERS YOU A PART OF HER LIFE
This one is actually very heartbreaking. It is one thing to fall out of love with someone or feel that your goals and your futures would not really be in the place that you want it to be and it is another horrible thing to look for an out from that relationship via cheating. Don’t you think that it has hurt him enough that you are no longer in love with him? It is a coward’s way out. If you are not interested in him, kindly let him go. If you notice your partner has been pushing out of her life for a while now, sit her down and have a talk and although you might not like what you hear, you would be grateful you did on time.
This is it, fellas. Those are the 10 signs that say she is cheating. If you experience only one or two, you might want to talk to her because she might be going through something else if you recognize most of these sign, just grab your leave. She is cheating.